Manage your feelings by expressing them
Some bullying behaviors result in being unable to manage your feelings, especially anger. One major aspect of emotional intelligence is "recognizing my own feelings". If something happens that makes you feel powerless and you want to snap and be aggressive towards your kids or partner, learn to express your feelings with words.

Research on aggressive behavior has discovered that aggressiveness was often due to being unable to express feelings in words. Sometimes, the aggressive person does not have the emotional vocabulary to express himself. Do not act on your feelings. Just declare them. Learn to identify how you feel and give your emotions names.

Say, "I'm very upset", "I'm disappointed" or "I'm so angry I want to break something". This will release some of your stress, help your family understand you are human and give them some clues as to what sets you off. In return, you will get their support.