“Shatter my heart, so that a new room can be created for a Limitless Love”
Translated from the Sufi

Some time ago I wrote a short composition about Unconditional Love, what followed that spiel was a whole lot of questions and controversy from many of my friends and family. The thought behind that piece of writing was that unconditional love had no emotion and being able to let go was as important as being able to hold on. I still firmly hold to that belief, as I feel so many of us have no idea of the natural process of things in our life. All things must live, and die, in order to live again. It’s all around us in nature but the greed in us nags that we hold onto all things always and what we end up with may be long dead we just never let go of it to make room for new life.

I have done quite a bit of thinking about this topic and how our souls choose things for us and that the soul has this way of growing at its own pace whether or not your conscious mind is ready for it. I am continually thankful my soul bumps me along or I may never be brave enough to learn anything new as it seems my soul propels me into all sorts of remarkable lessons that I didn’t think I wanted to learn. Such is the evolution of all things in life, not just the soul or love.

The quote I placed at the beginning is translated from the Sufi, an almost numinous faith thought to be the inner, mystical or psycho-spiritual dimension of Islam. While the Islamic faith believes they are on the pathway to the Divine or God, Sufism teaches that you can become closer while living, and that through life you evolve closer to the divine. I find this fascinating and if you ever are presented with the opportunity to study Sufism it has many wonderful narratives in its literature that are filled with lessons and thoughts to consider.

What I embraced from this remarkable quote is that it is believed not only in the order of the Sufi but many others that in order to have a limitless love, your heart must be shattered which relates back to the life and death and rebirth. One of the most romantic men I’ve ever met in my life once told me that he realized when he met me why he had experienced so much pain in his heart, he said that because he had held pain he knew that there was room for a love for me. At my darkest moments I’ve kicked myself for not running off with this guy, though even I am not so sure that I can handle such blistering reality on a daily basis. But what an amazing statement to witness!

It isn’t necessarily human nature that dictates we learn to appreciate what we have from losing something or letting it go. This process is something I feel we are taught, just like we are taught to fear and not to let the natural order of things occur. I am sure just about everyone has had his or her heart feel shattered, myself included. What perhaps we have to remember is also the pendulum affect. Which is difficult to remember when you’re at the bottom of the Universal Dumpster! A pendulum swings equally in each direction; your capacity for pain is in actuality equal to your capacity to love, individuals who have experienced incredible loss in their lives have not only the capacity to love very deeply but to allow love to resonate much deeper within them. They also have learned to allow things to depart, as it is the natural process of all life.

Perhaps as each day passes and your are given limitless chances to love or be loved think of freeing yourself of the belief that you are shattered, while I believe what you experience truly is painful, forgive the event for its occurrence and embrace the life, death and rebirth that can be born of the event. Perhaps the next time you feel shattered, you have the opportunity to create even more capacity to love within yourself.