If only...how many times have I said that phrase? Couldn't count em. I can tell you this, I don't say them as often as I used to when I was younger.

When I was in 4th grade I used to think: "If only I was in Middle School". Why, I'm not sure. I suppose I thought all my troubles would melt away once I became a teenager.

When I was a teenager, it was: "If only I was old enough to live on my own." Little did I know of the problems that would bring.

Next it was: "If only I could meet Mr. Right and get married." That's another box of trouble I might have been better off not opening.

"If only I could have a baby." I did...several of them and I am grateful daily for each one of them.

Anyway, you get the idea. "If only" was a daily litany for me. I don't know why I was in such a hurry to have everything...to have everything happen on my time schedule.
As I look back, each event occurred at just the right time, with very little help from me. Call it fate, destiny, kismet, whatever. What's supposed to be is gonna be.

I have given up the "If only". Oh, I do slip occasionally, but the older I get, the more content I am to just let life happen and to enjoy each and every moment. I believe there is someone, or something greater than I and that power will take care of my life if I just get out of the way.

Nobody asked for my advice, but if they did, I would say to take life as it comes, maintain a sense of humor and be kind to all who cross your path. The "If onlys" will take care of themselves.