Soulmate .. described as someone for whom you have a deep affinity. I looked the word up in the dictionary because I had all but forgotten what it's supposed to mean..having been out of the loop for lo thse many years..memory fades as you know.

My thoughts turned to this subject as I was cleaning my room with the television on. There was a marathon of a program called "last Resort". The premise of the show involved 3 couples who were having trouble in their relationship. Therfore they were given 5 days on a tropical island and with the help of counselors and a very handsome host, the relationships were to be mended...or discarded.

Parties were given, games were played on this little island paradise, all for the effort of getting these "soulmates" back on track.

I couldn't just sit and watch the silly program..it was just kinda playing in the background as I dusted and moved stuff around.

Anyway, this program brought several questions to my mind:

1. Is there such a thing as a soulmate to begin with?

2. Does everybody get one?...or do they get more than one?

3. Is it always someone of the opposite sex?..or can it be the same sex?

4. If not everyone is blessed with a soulmate...what are they supposed to do when they don't find one? Is there a place they can go rent one for weekends and holidays?

5. What is the proper identification so one knows one has found the real thing and not just some grifter pullin a scam?

I just can't wrap my mind around this concept that each person has a soulmate...especially with the divorce rate as high as it is these days.

Granted, its a lovely thought...for every pot there's a lid..but finding the corresponding pot and lid seems to be a pretty difficult thing to do. Ergo personal ads, internet searches, bar hopping, church going, and all the other rituals conducted in the name of finding "the right one."

Okay...all right, I bought into that whole soulmate thing and got married at a very young age...for eternity...which lasted a little less than 10 years. I probably should have asked for a warranty..10 years is a long way from eternity.

Also granted, there are some couples we know about who have lived happily together for a great number of years and they might well be soulmates for all I know. It's just that there are so few of them these days. How come?

I'm well past the age when my wish to find my soulmate occupies most of my time. It would have been nice in my younger years but I think I was just too dumb to have been able to recognize it if it hit me in the face with a wet tuna.

Come to think of it though, I have found a couple of soulmates...Boo...my wandering black cat who thinks he's a panther and my little Jack Russell Widget who wakes me so cheerfully every morning.

I'd sure be interested to hear any thoughts on this subject.

g'night

By the way..just for your information..on each show during the marathon...one out of every three couples walked away from the relationship declaring...."guess this is just not my soulmate".

Yep...cats and dogs...now there's a real soulmate..