Found out yesterday afternoon-officially- I got the detail I put in for. Still don't know when it starts or exactly what I will be doing, but it will be a change. Once I have the details, I can plan. Right now I am trying to clear the boards here so that nothing is outstanding, all supplies are bought etc. End of fiscal year is coming up and I have to spend money. (too bad I can't just go really shopping.) Good thing though, I get a temporary promotion out of this. I may also end up with a better job with a career ladder.

I have never been really ambitious with my career-never a long term plan to advance in the company as it were. Not career minded ever. So thinking about the career ladder growth is a new thing for me. Up to about 2 years ago, having the job was a matter of survival of my family. Now that SO is making more, I find myself rethinking how budgeting goes. Up to now, all funds went into house hold pot and I asked for money-or if we were shopping, what I wanted went into basket. SO had budget under control and knew what was available for free spend. I am thinking that I need a better control on my end of the deal. I can't even plan Christmas/birthday/anniversary surprises like he can. It is not fair. I am tired of not knowing ahead of time what I can spend-I need to bring this up to him, but how do you change the way you have done budget for 30 years (sept 7 is anniversary)? I am still thinking on this so sorry for the rambling. It is not that my husband is controlling and denying me things, but I do not have the same knowledge. Good example, for last Christmas I asked for some money to buy him gifts-some I had put aside. I thought that funds were real tight. I got $50. I surprised him and made him cry. He bought me a 'open heart' neckalace. I later found the paperwork for the warranty. $500-not fair. I should have same access. -I did learn to be careful of what I ask for, when money was tight he would buy me things (walmart) even if we really couldn't afford them. He said he couldn't tell me no. Any ideas on how to approach this is welcome.