"Men forget but never forgive, women forgive but never forget"
Me



Even though I’ve written about forgiveness before, its’ prevalence still rears up from time to time in my life. I have an uncanny knack of attracting energy into my life that is relative to my own issues. Hmm big surprise Teresa has forgiveness dilemmas - and guess what? I would be willing to bet you do too. I easily forgive others, but I don’t forget; hence my quickie quote above. I would have to say that even worse than my inability to forget is my inadequacy to forgive myself. Due to the powerful week ahead in the astrological skies, this is the perfect time for not only revisiting some of your own personal thoughts on forgiveness but also perhaps setting yourself free through forgiveness. Someone once said, you are not healed or free until you forgive. Hmm seems as though this is a direct correlation to my little rant regarding stubbornness. On that note no you cannot just sit with your issues and stubborn your way out of them, you actually have to work on them.

This week the Moon moves into opinionated Sagittarius and its power is even more intense as Monday was the full moon. This Full Moon puts us in touch with a paradox of life; we are dreaming of the Great Adventure while the Gemini Sun brings us back into the interactions of the present moment. This Full Moon is supported by harmonious aspects to Chiron, the Wounded Healer, giving us the ability to forgive others and ourselves. I never pay much attention to the planets on the weekends, I’m usually to wound up to take notice, then when I have a moment to slack at my day job the following Monday I always find it ironic that the planets had me dealing with the issue – I just had no idea. Additionally, there is creative tension between the cosmic lovers, Venus and Mars. We need compassion and forgiveness to heal the past pains of love. Chiron is one of my favorite planets, the story is that Chiron was once a great healer; he was also severely disfigured by a birth defect and born without the sanction of marriage between his mother and father. Chiron was wounded by his once student Hercules by a poisoned arrow, it was this wound that caused him to begin his search for a cure, and hence the discovery of medicine and the fundamentals of his teachings of self healing. If you find the placement of Chiron in your chart you can also find your weakness or where you feel the most separate from the rest of the world. Now if you have friends like mine, they surely point out on a day to day basis where I’m “separate” and I bet if your friends with me… I’ve had a drink or two and told you about your weaknesses too!

Where do we learn our habits of forgiveness? For the masses most morals related to forgiveness come from an organized religion of some sort. I’ve read countless accounts of priests or ministers teaching us to forgive and forget. The statement is tossed around continually. Then there are those who must repent for their “sin”, who determines a sin? Usually its left up to the individual who judges, please see rant titled “The Red Headed Judge” which is a personal favorite of my mom. While forgiveness is important, so is forgetting, however… Remembering the lesson you learned through this process is very important in order to avoid becoming a volunteer. So how does one forgive, forget but sorta still remember? Simple… Just release the person, and yourself, if the lesson is something you need it will forever imprint your behaviors.

There is no handbook to forgiveness that is handed out to each of us; we all have a different timeline and process. For some of us its simply a matter of recognition, others may have to do some soul searching. Contrary to those looking for the easy way out, you are not in the midst of the process when your sitting stubbornly closed off and blaming, there is no healing in blame, that’s only your own smoke hiding your fears. And perhaps I don’t know you and your not lucky enough to have me as a friend to make sure your weaknesses are pointed out to you all the time.